Am I too loud or too meak ?

Hello My Lovely Readers,

I am back again with you all, doing one of the things I feel is the best to express the deepest of my thoughts. Also, another reason why I prefer writing is, whatever I write here isn’t imposed but You who’s reading this post right now , actually feels, that this post is worth your time in this fast paced journey of life and so I am BLESSED to have you as my reader 🙂

Back to the topic want to write about or rather discuss. Are you also the one who is confused if you are too loud or too meak ? Do you want to know what my take on it is? If you want to know what’s my ideology on keeping the balance, please keep reading .

So I used to be an introvert child who won’t share easily what’s going on inside so easily but always wanted to speak about things which weren’t right or rather say Unfair to one – be it taking side of my friends in front of teachers(for whom I was a favorite but ended up being scolded by them for doing it 😀 ) or my younger sibling in front of my parents.
Never had a big group of friends because for me a friend is much more than with whom we just hang around. I still remember this friend of mine (she still is) going against her own sister to favor me and even got beating from teacher in school for me 🙂 – This for me is what a real friendship is, where I was standing in every thick and thin of hers and she did the same too.

Gradually I realized, how important aspect of one’s personality it is to be vocal – about the things which are right, fair and justified and so I came out of that shell I had around me of being an introvert. I started to react, speak it out louder than before and telling when it’s not fair and retrospect myself too.
But when you start to speak up in strong voice specially if you’re a woman you invite a lot of raised eyebrows and people start to tag you as too blunt, aggressive, egoistic (may be) . It’s then when the question comes “AM I TOO LOUD OT TOO MEAK” ? You want to know my approach to this, keep going on.

So the answer is- The perfect balance of being not too loud or too meak is if you do the following –

1. Raise your voice against injustice, bias, and wrong deeds no matter who is at stake.
2. Have a justifiable stand of your own in public – be it your family, friends, office, unknowns
3. Put forth your point in the most logical way possible and with the concrete reasoning as why you feel so without being judgmental , critic without a cause, about others.
4. Don’t indulge in fights/bitching/blame-games just to satisfy your ego in front of others however inside you know you’re wrong. This doesn’t make you strong if you just prove your point to the other person despite of knowing you’re wrong.
5. Use your words wisely for the betterment of others, appreciating people and not for bullying, pulling someone down, shaming, calling names – big NO NO.

Being a woman, I know how important it is to be vocal yet reasonable but unfortunately I don’t see many women doing it around me for various reasons and when I find such women I am naturally attracted to their personality and that’s the reason in all my social accounts , the women I follow, all of them have a spunk in them, they are all strong ones, vocal ones , women who have their stand and have concrete reasons to back it. I am more oriented towards women in these last statements as I always feel it’s our women who need to adapt these things because men are already vocal and dominant(just for fun) 😀

To sum it up, I would say Being Balanced is when you don’t fear of talking about your stand in public without pulling others down and can back your statements by valid pointers which any sensible and unbiased person would get. On the same time, you aren’t someone who’s fighting for everything without reasons – that’s no feminism.

What is your version of “Being balanced ” ? Please tell me in comments 🙂

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-Signing Off
Neha Sharma

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